If you’re one of my Facebook friends, you already know this. I rail against the modesty movement. Growing up in the church in the 80s, the whole one-piece suits only rule made me mad on so many levels. Despite being short, I have a long torso, so wasn’t that easy finding a suit that fit. Secondly, I honestly wanted to highlight my best feature – a flat stomach. Not in a sexy “come hither” way but in a way that someone dresses to highlight long thin legs or muscular arms. I wanted to do the same when I had to don swimwear because even the most confident teen is a bit self-conscious. Now that I’m older and sport a stretch-mark iced muffin top, I’m happy to wear a one piece or tankini with a long top.
The thing is that I do dress modestly. That is I dress appropriately for the situation and to convey the image I want to portray.
I recently went on a business trip and opted for a button-down top and skinny jeans, something that would be appropriate for a casual meeting and one of my favorite combinations. However, I thought about the client and the location and realized it wasn’t the best choice. I opted for regular jeans and a plaid shirt which turned out, as I expected, to be the perfect choice.
This week I’m on the road again. Most of my days will be outside, so it’s cargo pants and layered shirts. I even have my coveralls for chilly mornings.
How do you define modesty? Is it what you can or can’t wear or is it dressing for the situation and the comfort of yourself and others?