I recently went through a period where I was trying to do everything without help. I thought I could be the perfect wife, mom, housekeeper, AND writer and do it all by myself. Of course this led to way too much frustration and feelings of being so overwhelmed that all I wanted to do was stay under the covers in bed and pretend like the rest of the world didn’t exist.
After a couple of months of this, my husband and I had a heart to heart that relieved a lot of the pressure I was feeling. We made changes–and the first was that I let go of thinking I could do it all by myself. My husband has always been good about helping around the house, but he’s started doing more stuff, like cooking dinner a couple of times a week so I can use that time to write.
There’s more we’ve done, but just that one simple thing–letting him cook dinner occasionally, something that he has always enjoyed anyway–has been a huge help.
He also declared himself my ‘business manager’, which–apparently–means prodding me to go write, reviewing contracts, helping me keep tabs on new publishing and marketing ideas, and occasionally texting me things like, “you just liked my status on Facebook…I’m flattered, but why aren’t you writing? Go write already!” 😉
The point is, we all need help. We need help with housework, or accountability, or ________ (fill in the blank with your particular struggle). Don’t be like me and not ask until it overwhelms you. 🙂
Also, I was told a couple of weeks ago by Kristen to post links to the new anthologies with my stories in them. I was on vacation when that post published, so I didn’t have to chance to, but now I’m home and (hopefully) back in my daily groove. So here, if you’re interested, are the links to the Kindle versions of the books. Different Dragons is also available in print.
Hope you enjoy! 🙂