Last week, I hinted (quite heavily) that I have a major change coming up, one that requires pre-planning on the part of my family. And then I was nice enough not to tell you. I’m just all sorts of crazy fun.
I won’t keep you in suspense any longer.
My family will be actively pursuing adoption in 2014!
My husband and I have been talking about adoption for years. Due to a misunderstanding between my mom and I, I thought that I couldn’t have kids. So, from the beginning, my husband and I knew we would eventually adopt children. However, then my three bundles of joy bounded into the picture. Big surprises, even bigger joys! Adoption got put in the back corner. I’m not even sure it was even in my husband’s mind anymore.
That ache still lingered in my heart though. Knowing how many children out there don’t have someone to tuck them in, a family to lean on, or parents to trust to protect them. Some have never even known love–at all. My heart breaks, and then I want to bring all of them into my home. Not really an option, though.
I’ve tried talking to my husband about it in the last few years, but his response has been lackluster at best. I think he was having trouble seeing the bigger picture beyond the piles of diapers, dirty clothes, and screaming kids (who are now 7, 6, and 2 1/2).
Finally, in January, I brought it up to my husband again, and he was actually excited about it! And after some discussions last week, we have a plan.
See, we can’t really afford to adopt right now–and not just because of how much the actual adoption costs, but because our budget won’t allow for another child. That’s where the planning comes in. There’s going to be a lot of changes over the next year. A lot. We figured we’d give ourselves a year to get settled into our new home, to get our finances and our lives outside the military together. That’s also a year to learn about adoption, pray for God’s guidance, and prepare ourselves and our kids for accepting a new child into our home.
And then, in 2014, we’ll take the first step to becoming a family of 6 and approach our chosen adoption agency.
What an exciting time!