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Dangers of Asking God for Help

Too excited for homemade pumpkin pie to wait for it to bake.

You might get it.

God knows well the trick of showing me how easy I have it by giving me more. And like Ralene pointed out in her computer struggles, God is happy to help us with our goals and good intentions – whether we want it or not.

Lately, one of my biggest hang-ups has been getting up in the morning. I come by it honestly though. I heard on the radio not a month ago that scientists have truly found the DNA gene responsible for morning people.

My Husband doesn’t buy it.

It’s not that I’m looking for an excuse to not change –(well, not really) but kicking the night owl lifestyle is hard for me! Even when I was a teen getting up at 6 am to go to early morning seminary, I still stayed up late reading and writing. My sleep was what took the hit. When pregnancy and kids came into my life, sleep felt so abused that it revolted and often goes on strike to protest its working conditions.

Listening to my Husband, the conclusion is that getting up earlier would solve all my problems. His two favorite solutions – “wake up earlier” and “drink more water”.

Well I don’t buy that. I really don’t believe in silver bullets, but I do agree that it would probably help significantly. However, at 6 in the morning, I have little care for “should”s.

Enter Divine intervention.

In business seminars I’ve heard that “If the why is big enough, it will happen”.

So God upped the stakes on me.

He gave me another kid, and I don’t mean my infant – she’s content to sleep as long as I do, as long as she has a clean diaper and open access to food. No, I have new daytime toddler, at least for the next couple months. A friend got a full-time job and I got her 2-year-old while she works.

Pros:

  • Forces a set wake-up time because he’s dropped off at 7:40 am each weekday
  • Lunch also has a set time in order to allow for a reasonable naptime
  • Naptime, even just for him, requires a toning down of everything so he can sleep
  • Extra cash while we try to get out of Debt
  • I plan to save part of the pay each week to help pay for attending a writers’ conference

As much as I love writing - kids remind me that this is Life, and sometimes you just gotta dance, no matter the consequences.

Cons:

  • Forces a set wake-up time (no matter what time I went to bed)
  • Writing during the day is basically out – which relegates writing to after “bedtime” which is really only bedtime for 1 or 2 of the younger ones, while the older ones get their reward time on the PS3. What’s more, sometimes it’s still late in coming and in such case, please refer to Con #1. That 500 words a day goal I adopted from Ralene can be a challenge sandwiched between late nights and early mornings.
  • Naptime requires a toning down, enforced by me. Constantly.
  • I’ve got my own 2 year-old. For him, the first time was fun with a visitor, but now that it’s been a week… it’s territorial war with a rival who has no qualms about getting physical.

But all in all, we are learning to adjust as a group. The worst injury sustained this week (a bruising goose-egg) was technically self-induced, by way of walking into the pantry door, and that happened on the one day our new friend didn’t come. And only once have I answered the door dressed in a robe.

So, after months of “trying” – maybe even a year since I think one of my 2011 goals was to get up earlier – God’s help seems to be working. I won’t say it’s easy, but I know better than to complain.

On the other hand, I still think that moving me down here with the cockroaches to train me to keep a cleaner kitchen was just mean…

So, what’s He been prodding you to do lately?

About Ren Black

Part-time novelist. Weekend artist. Full-time Mother. Ex-poet. Perfectionist by training. Compulsive researcher sporadically. Prone to fits of linguistic commentary Unorthodox Renegade occasionally. Sarcastic by habit... Dreamer Always... Consider Yourself Warned

4 comments on “Dangers of Asking God for Help

  1. Ugh…mornings. You know, it’s only been in the last five or six years that I’ve turned against mornings (or did they turn against me?). I blame it on the kids. lol… I’m working on training my body to get up at 6:30, but hit the snooze more often than not. Of course, most mornings I don’t have the promsie of an additional toddler, either. Hang in there, friend, from what I hear it does get easier. 🙂

  2. I’m one of those abominable early risers. It bites me, though, at the end of the day. I have a hard time of it staying up much past 8:30 p.m. No matter how much I’m enjoying the book I’m reading. My prodding has taken the challenge of my husband being laid off from his job on January 2. (Happy New Year to you, goodbye.) Can I, or can’t I trust God for our needs. It’s my weakness to panic when I can’t see where the money will come from.

  3. I’m a night owl–best inspiration hits after 10 pm–which is usually when I should be winding down so as to get up at 6 am to get the husband and myself out the door for work (we’re both teachers at the same school). It’s been that way since high school, where I was homeschooled in a relaxed environment so I could set my own schedule as long as I got the work done. I’ve been a serial afternoon-work-napper for six years now, which works well enough, but then drives my schedule later (especially with the take-home work), which feeds into the staying-up-late business.
    Anyway, I guess the God-prodding has been to just get sleep when I can, get up when I have to and continue to praise and trust Him that the whole writing thing will work out even when (like tonight) I absolutely have to spend every waking minute on stuff for school (and no grumblings or resentment! That’s the harder part).

    • Wow, Janeen – burning the candle at both ends like that can be really tricky. I did it when I was younger and attending early classes, but no way I could do it now. Naps for me have potentially disastrous consequences.

      I do think that we all go through those sort of phases where God shifts such habits – or they must shift/bend to His will. It sounds like that’s what you’ve got going too. It’s not easy to adapt sometimes.

      But God does know what is best for us when. I know well it doesn’t mean I’ll always get everything done, sadly. I’m good at taking on more things than I can handle with my life as it is, but I know that if I let God lead me, things turn out. When I feel like my writing is getting squeezed out of my day, it’s tough, but in rational moments, I concede that my kids are to be higher priority, and that in the end it’s probably best.

      I hope you find a balance for yourself and/or are soon allowed more time to write. Perhaps summer, if you are a teacher? Good luck with it and thanks for commenting.

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