Is It Fear Or Love That Compels You?

Which is the stronger emotion? Well for me the obvious answer is love. But there are many who say that fear trumps love. I think that is just an attempt to downsize love a little more in these times.

Fear-doubt’s older jock brother. And it’s a natural response we feel when we see, think, or feel something that we don’t want to see/think/feel. It keeps us safe and away from harm. This could mean harm from a place, a person, or thing. Or venture. Fear can hold us down and tie our hands and it tries very hard to keep us from stepping out and accomplishing anything worthwhile.


The enemy will use fear and he will make it real.

Fear of failure. Fear of ridicule. Fear of never owning up to our cries of faith in what we set out to accomplish.

“There’s no sense in trying, I’m too scared to fail.”

“I’ll never do it.”

“I’m better off staying right here in my safe little space…seriously…I’m better off.”

Ah, safety. Nice and comfy. We can get so used to it we have a body mold in it. Thing is…fear can be used against itself. It can drive you to get up out of that chair and on your feet. All you have to do is take that first step.

Fear. Twain said: “The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.”

Let’s get just a little past the surface area with that one. Death could mean not getting the answer we were hoping for in our endeavours. We die and most of us have or will at some point of shame. Of rejection. Of humiliation the old saying goes.

But now we must go to the point before we were hit in the face with a “no”. In order to hear that, or chance it, we must step out into the light and actually do. Fear is a great motivator. Without it there would be no courage. Courage means, class?-doing whatever in the face of fear.

Exactly. Right in it’s dirtly lil face. Look at fear in the eye and say, “I will. I love doing what I do. I’m scared…but I will.”

Such love has no fear, because perfect love expels all fear. If we are afraid, it is for fear of punishment, and this shows that we have not fully experienced his perfect love.–1 John 4:18 

Love. Now that is power. That is stronger than anything I know. God won’t scold you for trying. If you ask Him, He’ll tell you, If you put Me first, I’ll give it to you. He may lead you somewhere else, but His love will give you strength. You see then we could conquer our fears and make that attempt. If we hear “no”? Then what? If fear tells us, “I told you so,” so be it. We’ve already come this far and we will definitely get back up, look fear straight on and say, “I will keep trying. You can’t stop me. You can try…I’m going to give you that. But you can’t stop me any longer.”

Use fear and ask yourself one of the greatest questions any man or woman can ask him/herself: What if?

Watch him back up. Watch him slowly cower in the corner. Eventually, it will shrink, subside, decrease. Someone may walk in and ask, “What’s that little old thing shivering in the corner?”

Tell them, “Oh, that’s my fear. I’ve conquered him. I keep him around…just to remind myself.”

Bad fear! Bad!

Be blessed!

About Tymothy Longoria

Tymothy Longoria has been described as a writer with a flair for the dramatic (whether this is true still remains to be seen). He is a fan of all things fantastic, metal music, black t-shirts, and aligns himself with geeks, nerds, and all manner of monsters, and is an ardent, optimistic supporter of his fellow creatives. He has written several short stories for the online macabre zine Underneath The Juniper Tree and in 2012 was awarded Debut Author of the Year by Twisted Core Press for 'Envy', his contribution to the Seven Deadly Sins Anthology. He is currently editing his full-length dark fantasy retelling, Revenants: Book One of The Stories. Fairy tales? If only. Legends will be reborn. Tymothy calls Texas home, where he lives with his wife, two children, and a cat called ThunderCat aka Kitty PawKitty. He is represented by Bree Ogden of Red Sofa Literary.

3 comments on “Is It Fear Or Love That Compels You?

  1. My Dearest Tymothy,

    Someone once wrote that man has nothing to fear but fear itself. How very true this is. Fear paralyzes and maims. If we could only realize that Love and faith kick in when they are needed. To constantly badger ourselves about things that we coulda, woulda and shoulda done is absolutely fruitless.Things that happen, happen for a reason, the best solution is as you say. Listen to God for He will always lead you with LOVE!

  2. Yes indeed. The best solution. The answer to our problems…our fears, will always be the same. God’s Love.


  3. Just watched a Star Trek Voyager episode where Janeway asks, “What does fear want? To be conquered.”

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